Replace judgment with discernment

In order to heal, you must learn the difference between discernment and judgment. We repeat that discernment is simply noticing that differences exist, while judgment attaches emotions through your belief systems to the differences you perceive... Discernment becomes judgment when an emotional reaction to something challenges your beliefs.   - The Pleiadians in Remembering Who We Are

My advice- drop all beliefs. Beliefs are fixed perspectives that limit conscious awareness of others. People are not fixed, so why waste energy on judging? If you judge people, you have no time to love people as Mother Teresa says.

Recommended Reading: 

Remembering Who We Are: Laarkmaa's Guidance on Healing the Human Condition https://www.amazon.com/Remembering-Who-Are-Laarkmaas-Condition/dp/0996783512/

Service to Others

Selfless does not mean letting people walk over you, that would not be service to the law of free will ~ healthy boundaries ~. Service to Others is service to others and self, Love in Alignment with Free Will. Service to Self is not respecting free will through control etc. Like David Hawkins' book Power vs. Force, Service to Others is empowering (lifting up through love- expansion) while Service to Self is forcing (tearing down through control- restriction). Different vibrational frequencies. There are two sides of Source energy- static (love) and dynamic (free will). Service to Others follows Divine laws, while Service to Self chooses to ignore Divine laws as long as they can.

Recommended Reading:

More about Service to Others https://www.lawofone.info/c/Service+to+Others

Also explore the Law of One by choosing categories on the website

Power vs. Force by David Hawkins 

https://www.amazon.com/Power-vs-Force-David-Hawkins-ebook/dp/B00EJBABS2

Process using the Heart

What senses exist beyond the 5 physical senses?

One sense is intuition. We all know about intuition. Intuition is your Soul guiding your path, your journey through life's experiences. 

What is another sense?

Like intuition, the Heart is another sense beyond the 5 physical senses. 

Process all experiences through your Heart before using the 5 physical senses. Let your Free Will and the Free Will of others filter through your Heart. The Heart is a sense, like intuition. It is beyond the 5 physical senses but can be used instead of the mind to process experiences. Love and the Heart is for people. 

The mind is for things. The mind is great for plans and organization. The mind is good at comparing characteristics of things to make a decision. Maybe you are planning to buy a car or house or to follow a budget. Maybe you are planning a project or home improvement. That is the strength of the mind. It is the domain of things, anything without a Soul. 

However, let the Heart guide your interactions with other people, since people have Souls. The mind does not comprehend the Free Will of people. But the Heart does at its deepest levels because it knows We Are All One in the core of our hearts. If people are ignorant and hurling negativity at you, stand your ground and tell them you do not wish to hear it. But then privately forgive them of their ignorance, to release the negativity from your aura fields. If people are kind to you, then accept their loving kindness with immense gratitude, this keeps your aura fields clean. Surrender into your Heart and you become the embodiment of empathy and compassion for others. 

If you don't understand another person, just be present, remain centered in the present moment only, releasing the past and the future, listen to another in the present moment, let your Free Will and the other person's Free Will merge together in the unity of the Heart. Look for common ground within all people. See the core of Light within the Hearts of all people, no matter who they are. 

If they are negative then they are ignorant, they are like lost children, lacking inner awareness of their actions or blocking their conscience because they have not opened their hearts. If they are kind then have gratitude for they have opened their hearts. 

When we are born into this world, things are often jumbled, especially as we go through adolescence and become adults. The core of the emotional body is formed during the years of 7 through 14 years of age. The core of the mental body is formed during the years of 14 through 21 years of age. Our minds lead our hearts at first. 

But as we begin to awaken we learn to let the Heart lead the mind. This is the path to freedom. Freedom from all judgments and belief systems. Freedom from all fears. Replace judgment with discernment by filtering all experiences through the heart. Does it feel like love or does it feel like fear? You heart knows the truth. Every other way of perceiving through the mind will simply drop, when the Heart guides you. 

In conclusion, be the embodiment of Love and Unity by processing all experiences through your Heart. Let the Heart guide you first in processing experiences and then the 5 physical senses come after. 

Love in alignment with Free Will

Taught someone why people are how they are, the answer is free will. Free Will differentiates (makes us unique) and also can divide through limited perspectives. Love unifies and finds common ground within all people. Free Will directs each mind, and then each mind (though beliefs) directs actions. Think of a pizza. There are 12 slices. Each slice is a free will. There are 12 unique perspectives in this case. So people aren't logical because free will isn't logical, and one person's free will directed mind will interpret situations differently than another's, because free will is inherently different. So free will does not always align. But you can add loving kindness in situations to add love which unifies. Empathy (put yourself in another's shoes) and compassion are the results of adding loving kindness. Humility is also the result, to listen to others and respond with love. Free will without love exists due to ignorance, which people are born into as humans. But once awakened, the heart opens and love pours out into actions of loving kindness toward all people. The key is to unite love and free will, which then becomes Divine Will, where you become an instrument of God's Will. Love with free will still means to keep healthy boundaries (don't be a doormat), but do you best in each situation to be loving. To love your neighbor as yourself, which is love in alignment with free will, which is creating Heaven on Earth.

Do you have trouble accepting love?

If you have trouble accepting love, it may have links to worthiness. You don't need to use the mind to justify accepting love. You are worthy of love and accepted with open arms. Remember the mind is a tool for a specific purpose. It cannot be applied to love. Love is the domain of the heart. Life is. Love is. Free Will is. 

Free Will cannot be justified by the mind because it is Free Will that directs the mind! When Free Will moves another to be themselves and express themselves how they want to express, let them be. All pieces of the puzzle of life are needed for rich flavor and diversity. The reason for free will is to expand the universe, to change the universe. There is a purpose and that is for each to choose their path and be themselves. 

Free Will awareness directs the use of the mind or the heart. You have the power to choose. So when someone is giving you kind compliments or gifts of love, you don't need to justify them based upon past experiences or using mind logic. Just be. Just be present. Stay in the present moment only. Accept love with gratitude from others without justifications or expectations. Direct your Free Will through your heart and love will continue to multiply in your life.